Relationship Counseling throughout California

What is Relational Trauma?

It is any type of trauma that has happened in a close relationship. It can be abuse, neglect, betrayal, or a loss within a relationship. This type of trauma can have profound and enduring effects on your emotional well-being, self-perception, and ability to form and maintain healthy connections with others. Relational trauma can impact the core aspects of identity and trust. If you have experienced trauma within the context of relationships, it can shatter your beliefs about safety, security, and the reliability of others. So if you’re struggling with…

  • being vulnerable

  • feeling trapped

  • feeling lonely in your relationship

  • Feeling anxious with your partner

  • Feeling like you can’t be yourself

  • Feeling like you’re detached from people

  • Having a hard time with commitment

  • Setting boundaries

  •  Communicating effectively

  • trusting others

Then you may have relational trauma and I CAN HELP YOU.

Are you tired of the drama and heartbreak when you argue with those closest to you?

Do you feel lonely even though you’ve tried everything to connect with others?

Is setting boundaries in your relationships difficult?

This is how I will help you…

I will create a space that will prioritize safety, validation, so you can learn to create ways to rebuild trust. Together, we will cultivate self-compassion and explore ways to help reframe your understanding of relationships. I will help you learn to build a supportive network of friends and family. We will work to build your self-esteem, use good communication skills, implement healthy boundaries so that you can experience relationships that

  • bring you joy

  • let you feel safe

  • let you feel connected

  • brings you love, trust and empowerment

I will help you identify patterns in your current relationships. We will explore how you relate to others and talk about how you handled conflict in the past which can help give you insight on problems you have now. You can explore your own values, identify triggers or unhealthy behaviors. Through relationship counseling you will gain insight into yourself and create balance and growth which sets the stage for rich and meaningful relationships.

Setting boundaries can be difficult and many people struggle with it. There may be times when you know that you should set a boundary but don’t know how or you may have tried but it led to major conflict. I will help you identify when to set boundaries, how to set boundaries, and we will even practice how you will approach those difficult conversations. Setting boundaries is a skill that I want to help you become comfortable with.

There may be relationships that you have that are unhealthy and you've poured all your energy into trying to make the relationship work but the other person isn’t putting in the same effort. Maybe, you’ve even started to loose yourself in the relationship. Together, we will explore these relationships and either learn to accept them or prepare to put yourself first and leave the relationship behind.


Feel good about your relationships

Therapy that focuses on building healthy relationships can change your world.

It can help you learn to be your authentic self with your partner or friends, learn to communicate your wants, needs, and desires and not feel ashamed doing it, and you can see improvement in your sexual relationship. It can help you learn to trust, be vulnerable, and set boundaries. These are very important tools to have when creating healthy relationships . After relationship counseling that focuses on building healthy relationships you will notice : 

  • your self-esteem improves

  • There’s no anxiety surrounding relationships

  • You won’t feel trapped

  • You’ll make better friends

  • It’ll feel good being in a secure romantic relationship 

  • You’ll feel a balance between your relationships and yourself

You deserve to have Healthy and Positive Relationships that can help you thrive in your world!

My goal is to show you how to get that…

There are many types of therapy that can help with getting to the core of having unhealthy relationship. EMDR can help clients with the negative beliefs they have about themselves that are contributing to having unhealthy relationships. EMDR will get to the root of why that belief is there and allow you to process those emotions which allows you to start changing those beliefs and adapting to new and positive beliefs about yourself. 

When you feel better about yourself, your relationships will improve.


Change is possible.

Change is possible.

Questions?

FAQs

  • Yes, I really enjoy working with couples. I focus on helping couples build better communication skills with each other, regain the bond that was once there, and increase intimacy.

  • Yes, I will educate and help you understand your attachment style and how it plays a part in your relationships. This also allows you to learn how to change or accept certain things so your relationships can improve.

  • Yes, I love helping anyone who makes it out of a DV relationship. I can relate on a personal level and I want to help others make it out safely. EMDR can help with the negative beliefs that DV causes individuals to have about themselves. I made it out alive and I want to Empower others to do the same.